Why Matchmaking Still Makes Sense – And How Science Confirms It

1️⃣ Why Talk About Online Matchmaking at All?

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In times of apps, swipes, and endless profiles, professional matchmaking services have regained popularity. More and more people realize that love isn’t found through endless chatting, but through meaningful compatibility. Still, matchmaking platforms face outdated stereotypes: too expensive, too desperate, too slow. But what’s true, and what’s just a myth?

This article uncovers common prejudices, checks the facts with scientific evidence, shows the real advantages of matchmaking services, and explains how to make the most of wanted.love – without falling for scams or losing your motivation.

2️⃣ The Most Common Negative Prejudices About Matchmaking

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Breaking free from clichés: Every truth starts where myths end.

Here’s what people think (wrongly) about matchmaking services:

  • Only desperate people use matchmaking.
  • It’s unromantic. Love cannot be planned.
  • Free apps offer the same. Why pay?
  • It’s full of fake profiles.
  • They just want your money.
  • Nobody finds a partner there anyway.
  • Matchmaking is old-fashioned.

3️⃣ Fact Check: These Prejudices Are Scientifically Outdated

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Trust is built on facts, not assumptions.
MythScientific RealitySource
Only desperate people use it.Users are often well-educated, stable, serious.Hitsch, Hortaçsu, Ariely (2010)
Love can’t be planned.Matching increases success and satisfaction.Finkel et al. (2012)
Free apps offer the same.Algorithms offer better, more precise matches.Finkel et al. (2012)
Full of fake profiles?Verification reduces risk significantly.Pavlou & Gefen (2004)
Just about making money?Quality & transparency build trust.Pavlou & Gefen (2004)
Nobody finds love there?Matching by values works better long-term.Frost et al. (2008)

4️⃣ The Proven Advantages of Matchmaking Services

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Better matches, less wasted time: Online matchmaking works when you use it right.
AdvantageScientifically ProvenSource
Higher success for serious relationships✅ YesFinkel et al. (2012)
Better matches via algorithms✅ YesFrost et al. (2008)
Saves time, reduces useless contacts✅ YesFinkel et al. (2012)
Security & trust via verification✅ YesPavlou & Gefen (2004)
Users with more serious intentions✅ YesHitsch et al. (2010)
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5️⃣ How to Start: Your Profile on wanted.love

If you want the system to work for you, you need to work with it:

  • Fill out your profile honestly and fully.
  • State clearly what you seek: marriage, relationship, friendship.
  • Answer questions about values, personality, lifestyle honestly.
  • Verify your profile for trust and safety.

Profiles with vague, incomplete, or missing information simply cannot be matched reliably.

6️⃣ How wanted.love Works for You

Once you’ve completed your profile:

  • You’ll receive proposals based on shared values, not random swipes.
  • You’ll only be visible to other verified profiles.
  • The more precise your inputs, the more precise the matches.

wanted.love is not an app for endless chatting. It’s a tool for people who seek clarity.

7️⃣ Stay Smart, Stay Safe

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Stay cautious, stay calm. Scammers won’t succeed where you’re alert.

Even on serious platforms:

  • Never rush. A real relationship takes time.
  • Ignore any requests for money, data, or strange stories – even here, scams attempt to slip through.
  • wanted.love checks profiles, but scammers try everywhere. Trust your instinct.

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Real love takes time. Patience, trust, and courage are your best allies.

8️⃣ What Mindset Helps?

Love is not an instant product. Be realistic:

  • Don’t expect „perfect“ after 2 clicks.
  • Focus on trust, conversation, and shared values.
  • Think months, not days.

9️⃣ Your Motivational Reminder

You are not here because you failed. You are here because you are mature enough to seek real connection. That’s strength, not weakness.

„Real love doesn’t come from luck. It comes from clarity, patience, and courage.“

wanted.love gives you the space for all three.

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